Personal Guide: help, my previously abusive relationship has put me off sex
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I am in my first proper relationship since I separated from my emotionally abusive ex and I’m finding it really difficult to engage with my new partner in bed. I used to really enjoy sex but was coerced into having a lot of sex I didn’t want when I was with my ex. As a consequence, sex has become associated with pain, discomfort and unhappiness, and I distance myself in bed. I want to break through this, but I don’t know how. My partner is incredibly understanding and patient, but I think he finds it hard sometimes because he isn’t the one who caused me pain.
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